How to Tell if a Man is Using You

One of the most common questions I get asked is... How can a woman tell if a man is just using her?

My first response is, if you are asking, you are probably feeling used. And if you are feeling used you are probably being used.

There is a significant difference for most men between wanting a woman for a plaything for a night or two, and wanting a real, healthy, mature relationship.

The two should not be confused.

How can you tell the difference?

Why not ask yourself a few questions....
  1. Does the guy appear interested in your life? Your family? Your interests? Or is he only interested in "alone time"?
  2. Does the guy show care and respect for you? Or are you a convenience?
  3. Do your conversations center around life, ideas, interesting thoughts? Or is it all about when you are available for sex?
  4. Do you have a great time together when there is no physical activity going on? Or is sex the only thing that brings you together?
  5. Do you feel cared for and cherished for being who you are? Or do you feel you are only valued for what you do for the guy?
  6. Is the guy interested in your goals, your dreams, your hopes? Or is the relationship pretty much centered on his needs?
  7. Do you feel in your heart that you are valued as a human being? Or do you feel your value comes from the guys expectations?
Do a little exploring. Be honest with yourself. Don't deny or repress your feelings. Be open to what your heart is telling you.