I've received a few comments and emails recently from women who have been manipulated by not so great guys! This quote came to my mind...
"A dog is not considered a good dog because he is a good barker; and a man is not considered a good man because he is a good talker."
Too often women listen to a man and fall for his manipulative words. Many of us are trusting and want to believe what we hear.
Some women want to believe the good in another so badly that they don't see what is really going on.
And, some women want to hear how wonderful they are, they need others to validate their worth, and they want the ego boost that comes from hearing words of devotion and adoration.
But, words do not equate with truth.
There are plenty of guys who know how to say the right words but who have little idea what it takes to be a truly great man.
A good man does more than talk the talk... he walks the walk.
It takes time to know what a guy is really about and it takes conscious effort to know when one is being manipulated.
Stay alert. Notice those red flags. Listen to your gut!
Don't fall for a guy just because he knows how to pretend to be a great guy... words are not enough!
You want a truly fabulous man, not just a guy who knows how to talk!
"A dog is not considered a good dog because he is a good barker; and a man is not considered a good man because he is a good talker."
Too often women listen to a man and fall for his manipulative words. Many of us are trusting and want to believe what we hear.
Some women want to believe the good in another so badly that they don't see what is really going on.
And, some women want to hear how wonderful they are, they need others to validate their worth, and they want the ego boost that comes from hearing words of devotion and adoration.
But, words do not equate with truth.
There are plenty of guys who know how to say the right words but who have little idea what it takes to be a truly great man.
A good man does more than talk the talk... he walks the walk.
It takes time to know what a guy is really about and it takes conscious effort to know when one is being manipulated.
Stay alert. Notice those red flags. Listen to your gut!
Don't fall for a guy just because he knows how to pretend to be a great guy... words are not enough!
You want a truly fabulous man, not just a guy who knows how to talk!
10 thoughts and insights:
Too many men are all talk and no action !
Loving Annie
In what way?
It's the subtle things, like how he treats you. Does he hold doors for you; does he keep his promises, like call when he says he will; does he have a good group of friends that he treats with respect; how does he treat his mother-that's a big one; how does he treat animals. There are a lot of little signs that women fail to look at, because you're right, they fail to listen to their gut! There is much to be said for a womans intuition.
The trouble is if we love them then even when we know they are telling whopping great lies we want to believe them so choose to do so.
Hi JJ,
Great blog! Add myself to your followers list. Do check mine, too. I don't do male-bashing either (!) but there sure is an entire section on men, women and gender benders!
Cheerio!
Anuja
www.anujarathi.blogspot.com
It is easy to be moved by words and it is easy to put the blinders on to the red flags. Awareness is key! Great post.
Dear Jennifer,
Thank God I found your site. I am on holiday for 3 weeks and after much pondering, have finally taken the long overdue decision to break up with my bf. In need of more confirmation and conviction (because I feel I am easily won over by persuasion and am afraid I may fall back), I find your articles reassuring and reaffirming my decision. THANK YOU for the effort in putting up this blog.
I have a number of really great guys as friends. But the problem is that neither of us see each other as a potential romantic partner. In other words, we are not romantically attracted. How is it that generally a great lady and a great guy are in the same room but many times, the sparks dont fly?
thank you again!
Hey, Jennifer! :)
This was a terrific post and The Powers That Be used it to confirm and affirm my own recent decision.
For those of us who have a 'habit' of being persuaded by a good talk, it's nice to know that there are all the OTHER things he says and does (or doesn't say, and doesn't do), that help us to make sense of what's "REALLY" happening.
Great stuff. Happy Valentine's Day!
Hey, Jennifer! :)
This was a terrific post and The Powers That Be used it to confirm and affirm my own recent decision.
For those of us who have a 'habit' of being persuaded by a good talk, it's nice to know that there are all the OTHER things he says and does (or doesn't say, and doesn't do), that help us to make sense of what's "REALLY" happening.
Great stuff. Happy Valentine's Day!
There is definitely more to it then one aspect of life. I wrote once about the five senses. When a person appeals to most of them, any combination of a majority of them, the rest are easily given. Beyond that, weaknesses in a persons character are the first thing a selfish devour will go after. Telling men deepest darkest secrets, that arent your husband, can lead to your instant manipulation and so is the case with women...i laugh when cheaters are confident in their mistresses words "Baby i wont tell" "Its our little secret" "I dont tell anyone what i do" Next thing you know, you seeing pictures of her and your wife on FB together on Dance Club Photo Sites, tee hee
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