You Don't want to be with a Guy who Doesn't want to be with You

Why is it that some women refuse to acknowledge that a man doesn't want to be with them?

I'm pretty sure everyone reading this blog has encountered at least one woman who has done everything she can to not have to admit that a man is not interested in her.

Why is this phenomenon so prevalent?

Why is it that some women struggle admitting the fact that a man may not be into her?

Of course we know why. To acknowledge that a man isn't interested in us gives us the feeling that we are somehow inferior, or unattractive, or not valuable.

Still, women come up with all sorts of excuses for the man rather than just admit the relationship is not to be.

"He really loves me but...."

"He is tired."

"He just has to work a lot lately."

"He is having problems with his friends."

"He has a lot of other commitments."

"He just lost my phone numbers."

The list goes on and on and on.

The reality is, some guys are just not into some women.

It is OK. It doesn't mean you are not a fabulous, fantastic, wonderful woman. It just means that the guy is not right for you.

Now, here is the important point... read carefully:

You don't want a man who doesn't want to be with you.

Again...

You don't want to be with a man who doesn't want to be with you.*

And, you don't want to humiliate yourself by begging, pleading, or demanding that some guy love you.

If a man doesn't want to be with you, the best way to handle it is to just admit that he is not right for you, acknowledge that you do not want a man who does not want you, and move on.

No calling him. No trying to manipulate him. No degrading yourself with all sorts of offers to accommodate him.

And especially no being sleazy or tawdry behavior to try to get him to have sex with you.

You move on gracefully and with your self respect.

Now, the reality is there may be a lot of heartache. Ending a relationship is often filled with pain and sorrow.

So, yes it is appropriate to grieve, to feel badly, and to cry. Of course.

But the more you deny the inevitable, the more you hold onto the hope that he really is in love with you, the more you plead and beg, the less able you are to move on to a healthy life.

If you are with a man who does not want to be with you, hold your head up high. Take it like a strong and valuable woman who knows her worth. Don't demean yourself by becoming annoying and irritating as you try to make him see how fabulous you are.

You don't need a man to make you happy.

More importantly, you don't need a man who doesn't want to be with you.



*Reread as many times as it takes to remember this point!