The Fabulous Secret Men Don't Know About Themselves

It is weird.

The media portrays the idea that a guy must be strong and powerful and wealthy and good looking and successful to be considered a good guy.

Of course we all know this is nonsense and as we can see virtually each day in the news, powerful and wealthy men are not always even decent let alone worthy of a great woman.

But here is what is so funny...

Guys do not realize how totally attractive and sexy it is to be gentle and tender.

In my informal "research" I have asked virtually every woman I know and so far 100% of women think it is totally sexy to see a guy being kind and caring.


For example.. I have asked what women think of a father playing with children.

Totally sexy.

How about a guy caring for his sick grandmother?

AMAZING!

How about a man holding a baby?

Wildly hot!

Yeah, guys don't seem to know this little fact.

Of course it all makes sense.

We have evolved to be attracted to those who will help us get our genes into the next generation and to keep our offspring alive. While our most primitive sense of attraction is strictly sexual in nature, and is there to simply get a woman impregnated by a healthy male, our more evolved brain is looking for a great guy who will be a partner and actually help us with parenting. "Male Parental Investment" is a fairly new phenomenon in terms of human evolution and is clearly more advanced and more beneficial for children, and our subconscious mind is very aware of signs that tell us a man will be a good father and care for his offspring. Signs like care and devotion.

But here is the problem. Sometimes women allow their more primitive instincts to rule their more evolved brain. Women who are attracted to the Alpha Male types are focused on the very old sexual urge that is primarily about getting DNA. Nothing more.

On the other hand, women who want a long term relationship and seek a mate who will be there to parent their children are attracted to those men who show signs a man will care for others.

But of course there are times when it all gets mixed up.

So, women, if you are wanting a long term relationship or wanting a family is may be wise to notice the kinds of men to whom you are attracted.

Become aware of what you want, what you look for in a man, and what sorts of men truly demonstrate the types of traits that are important to you. Don't let your primitive reptilian brain take over. use your highly evolved brain to help you chose a partner.

Now before I hear any complaints about, yes of course there are great men who are wealthy and successful. Definitely. Absolutely. I know many.

The point is, just because a man is wealthy or attractive or powerful doesn't mean he is going to be a great man for you or a good partner for a long term relationship.

And for all the male readers... just thought you would want to know how women view your gentle and tender side!