Recently I have noticed women wearing some rather odd clothing. I've seen some women dress so inappropriately that they look more than desperate, more than sleazy, actually silly is the word that comes to mind.
Let me give you a few examples.
While visiting Disney World, I noticed a few women wearing stilettos... bright and beautiful shoes if they were going out for the evening but traipsing around the Magic Kingdom in 105 degree weather with three inch spiked heels seemed really bizarre. Beyond desperate!
Or the seriously tacky trend to have all your underwear showing. Now we all love beautiful lingerie but showing it off in a business meeting is just plain unprofessional. Desperate for sure.
In a store yesterday I saw a couple of women wearing clothing so tight that every little role and ripple was clear and distinguishable. It didn't look sexy or hot, which was the look they seemed to be going for, it looked unattractive and trashy. Yep... looking desperate!
It is great to feel attractive, look nice, and pay attention to appearance, but desperate women think appearance is more important than being a great woman. As I have said before, great men want more than an attractive object, they are interested in fabulous women who bring vitality, strength, and life to a true relationship.
The bottom line is... if you are desperate you are not going to find a great man. It just won't happen. Why? Because desperate women are low on the mating scale. If you look desperate, you are going to attract guys who are not interested in finding a great woman but will settle for whomever is available. Desperate women are easy to get. Of course it may not be a conscious decision on the part of guys but you can be assured that instinctively men know what women they can pick up for an easy one night stand, and those women who are more particular and careful.
There is a big difference between looking fabulous and looking ridiculous. You can look sexy and hot without looking cheap and desperate!
4 thoughts and insights:
Three inch heels at an amusement park are ridiculous.
Normally I think heels have to be at least 4" to look slutty, but it depends on the outfit and the maker.
Jimmy Choo might be the exception, at $1,000 a pair...
And for every slutty woman who doesn't know that she looks foolish - is an equally tacky man who is comfortable with her lack of standards and thinks she looks hot.
Looking fabulous takes reasonable self-esteem and a good dress sense.
This is a very important topic. True, what we wear and how we wear it sends messages out to others. Dressing sharp is so much different than dressing slutty. How can you expect respect from a man if the way you dress indicates that you don't respect or value your self.
looking cheap will only attract cheap men (emotionally)
-emdee
www.douchewatcher.com
I don't think it's fair to put people down or disrespect them based on how they dress. People wear what they wear, because they simply like it or feel it's within their comfort zone. They may not even agree that their style is a way of "disrespecting themselves."
From my experience, a lot of women outgrow dressing "revealing". If you don't like it, don't look.
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