With all the stories of prostitution, cheating, and affairs in the news lately, I have concern for the glorification of the industry as it concerns girls and young women.
The message that prostitution is glamorous and that getting money so a guy can sexually use your body, is not the most healthy message to send to our girls, our daughters, and the young women of our society.
The "industry" is not glamorous; not by a long shot. The lives of most prostitutes are filled with abuse, rape, threats, STDs, substance abuse, fear, homelessness, sex slavery, degradation and humiliation.
Let's be real for a minute and look at the real life of women in the business.
The vast majority of women in the business hate it. They need the money but hate the work. They were often manipulated or coerced into the business. They are often homeless and desperate. They often require drugs to dull the pain and disgust of having to allow a stranger to use their bodies while performing all sorts of acts.
The "Johns" may not be decent, kind, nice, or attractive...in fact they may be dirty, smelly, and repulsive; they may like aberrant or deviant sex acts that a woman finds repulsive. The may be abusive, hurtful, and disrespectful. Doesn't matter.
These women learn how to pretend the guy is great when behind their backs they laugh at how they can manipulate the Johns to believe they are really great guys. They are paid to pretend a guy is wonderful when in fact he may be the farthest thing from a decent man.
Let's look at some statistics of girls and women in the business:
The average age of entry into the business: 14-16 years old.
Percentage of girls/women who have been threatened with a weapon? 78%
Percentage of girls/women who have been physically assaulted? 82%
Percentage of girls/women who have been raped? 82%
Percentage of girls/women who have been raped five times? 78%
Percentage of girls/women who are or were homeless? 84%
Percentage of girls/women who were physically abused as a child? 49%
Percentage of girls/women who were sexually abused as a child? 65-95%
Percentage of girls/women who would like help with drug/alcohol addiction issues? Nearly 70%
Percentage of girls/women who would like to leave the business? 87%
Percentage of girls/women who wish they had a safer place to live? 78%
Percentage of girls/women with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? approximately 70%
Prostitution is basically a woman giving up her body to a pimp who sells her to a guy to use as he wishes. It is the ultimate form of subservience and slavery. We can call it different names, pretend the women are all thrilled with their jobs, or even ignore the abuse, substance addictions, sexually transmitted diseases, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, it doesn't change the facts.
There are behaviors clearly consistent in Pimps and abusive men. To pretend otherwise is to not look at the industry for what it is.
What is it? It is the selling of women's bodies for sex. Pure and Simple!
We do the girls and young women of our world a disservice when we glorify prostitution and portray the image that the life of prostitution is glamorous and filled with fame, fortune, and wealth. We do them a disservice when we suggest their worth is based on how sexually valuable they are to less than decent men.
The adults of our society need to look hard and long at what we are promoting in the media, what messages we send the girls and young women of our world.
Shame on all those organizations who promote and glorify the idea of prostitution to our girls and young people!
And, Kudos to those organizations who are responsibly reporting the reality of the business, demonstrating the real horror and degradation of the industry.
To read more please visit:
Prostitute statistics
Prostitute Job Description
The message that prostitution is glamorous and that getting money so a guy can sexually use your body, is not the most healthy message to send to our girls, our daughters, and the young women of our society.
The "industry" is not glamorous; not by a long shot. The lives of most prostitutes are filled with abuse, rape, threats, STDs, substance abuse, fear, homelessness, sex slavery, degradation and humiliation.
Let's be real for a minute and look at the real life of women in the business.
The vast majority of women in the business hate it. They need the money but hate the work. They were often manipulated or coerced into the business. They are often homeless and desperate. They often require drugs to dull the pain and disgust of having to allow a stranger to use their bodies while performing all sorts of acts.
The "Johns" may not be decent, kind, nice, or attractive...in fact they may be dirty, smelly, and repulsive; they may like aberrant or deviant sex acts that a woman finds repulsive. The may be abusive, hurtful, and disrespectful. Doesn't matter.
These women learn how to pretend the guy is great when behind their backs they laugh at how they can manipulate the Johns to believe they are really great guys. They are paid to pretend a guy is wonderful when in fact he may be the farthest thing from a decent man.
Let's look at some statistics of girls and women in the business:
The average age of entry into the business: 14-16 years old.
Percentage of girls/women who have been threatened with a weapon? 78%
Percentage of girls/women who have been physically assaulted? 82%
Percentage of girls/women who have been raped? 82%
Percentage of girls/women who have been raped five times? 78%
Percentage of girls/women who are or were homeless? 84%
Percentage of girls/women who were physically abused as a child? 49%
Percentage of girls/women who were sexually abused as a child? 65-95%
Percentage of girls/women who would like help with drug/alcohol addiction issues? Nearly 70%
Percentage of girls/women who would like to leave the business? 87%
Percentage of girls/women who wish they had a safer place to live? 78%
Percentage of girls/women with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? approximately 70%
Prostitution is basically a woman giving up her body to a pimp who sells her to a guy to use as he wishes. It is the ultimate form of subservience and slavery. We can call it different names, pretend the women are all thrilled with their jobs, or even ignore the abuse, substance addictions, sexually transmitted diseases, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, it doesn't change the facts.
There are behaviors clearly consistent in Pimps and abusive men. To pretend otherwise is to not look at the industry for what it is.
What is it? It is the selling of women's bodies for sex. Pure and Simple!
We do the girls and young women of our world a disservice when we glorify prostitution and portray the image that the life of prostitution is glamorous and filled with fame, fortune, and wealth. We do them a disservice when we suggest their worth is based on how sexually valuable they are to less than decent men.
The adults of our society need to look hard and long at what we are promoting in the media, what messages we send the girls and young women of our world.
Shame on all those organizations who promote and glorify the idea of prostitution to our girls and young people!
And, Kudos to those organizations who are responsibly reporting the reality of the business, demonstrating the real horror and degradation of the industry.
To read more please visit:
Prostitute statistics
Prostitute Job Description
10 thoughts and insights:
You missed a stat:
Percentage of girls/women with serious drug addiction issues?
;)
Love your blog - I just printed your list of "questions to ask yourself" from the March 3rd post. Good timing; I needed the reminder!
Hi Amplifier!
Ohhh thanks for catching that.. I added the stat!
Nearly 70%! It is a serious problem in the industry!
:-)
Jennifer
There's a few problems over here with girls from Eastern Europe being "trafficked".
Not good.
Hi JJ,
You are right... it is much more of a problem than people want to belief.
It is a problem here as well. It is hidden and not discussed much nevertheless it is a very serious problem!
This is why I seriously do NOT like the idea of glamourizing prostitution. The VAST majority of it is really a dirty, disgusting, degrading and dangerous phenomenon!
Hope your day is a good one,
Big hugs,
JJ
Wow! I am kind of shocked by all these statistics. I know a lot of women who are in the business and like it. I do know some who are over it. But all jobs have that aspect. All of the women I know do not have pimps and do not use drugs.
The real thing that sucks about it is that its hard to find a good relationship and its hard to work at something else while doing it because most of the guys who are cool want to see you during the day time. But it is possible. Most women in the business are either overeducated or extremely undereducated. Almost all have kids and are using it as a source to help their kids. I am not talking about teens, which I think is sad beyond belief or women who are pimped which is also totally devistating to their minds.
Another thing is that people like you and the people who agree with this idea that it is "sad" totally distort the "reality" of the situation. You talk about it like you know it. Yet you are reading stats. Stats are really very unreliable, take a statistics class and check out how few people it takes to be called signifigant. Most of the women who are in these stats are likely to be streetwalkers, since they are the easiest targets for police. There are literally millions of others who are not being accounted for. I know some who buy homes with this, i know others living hand to mouth. I really think some women see it as a way to get ahead and do not suffer from it. I think it depends on if they have friends or not who care for them along the way. People like you make that harder by demonizing the business and making it into something awful. I am not advocating for teens to get into it! I also think people should use it carefully, because the money can be quite addictive, but please do not spew your garbage until you have walked in their shoes and check up on your so called statistics. Thank you!
Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for commenting.
Actually I have worked with many women in the business and keep up on the research. The stats I share are accurate. (I have taken many statistics courses at a graduate level).
And, I will always stand for the rights of women to not be owned, or feel coerced or manipulated to participate in a business where they are bought and sold for sex.
The vast majority of women in the business do not believe they have much choice, wish they could find another form of work, and are involved in substance abuse. This is the reality. In addition, these women often have a long history of physical and sexual abuse.
Again, it is fine if a woman freely engages in whatever form of mating she wishes out of her own free will, with a full range of choices, options, and opportunities. This scenario however is NOT the norm by any stretch of the imagination.
I wish you the best of luck,
Jennifer
As I said most of the stats are from women who are walking the street; as they are easiest to get this data from. Naturally those women tend to come from rough backgrounds and if they are walking the streets and cannot use a computer it would be pretty natural to say that they could be addicted to drugs, especially if they are homeless. So your stats may be real, but I highly doubt they take into account the literally millions of women who have a place to live, make either enough to live or good money, and are private people who are typically at least educated enough to use a computer.
I not only know a lot about it, know a lot of women who do this, but I also have personal experience with it. And when I took stats during college (I have my BA as well as a professional certificate). I recalll that in some cases gather a survey with just 80 people was enough to call it signifigant and make this data into facts... I recall thinking, geese, thank god I know now that not all statistics are true.
I am sure there are many who have it rough and want to get out and feel they cannot. It is not always an easy job. However, there are also MANY who are well educated, and choose to engage in this form of work for the money and to better their own life.
I have known a pastry chef who does it part time to supplement her income, a woman who bought several homes (not a lot of educational background, but smart), a yoga teacher, a teacher, a professor,med students, lawyers, Doctors in Cuba do it, many massage therapists, many different students, and many have other ways to make incomes and are not desperately looking for a way out.
I just feel its misleading to the public to say that this scenario is not the norm. It is not well known, as most of these women doing it cover their tracks much better than street walkers. Perhaps it is really hidden well. Many women do this because they choose to, can make more money and want to better the lives of their families and their own lives. I stand by it. None of the women I have talked to who do it have ever been sexually harrassed as a young person, some have been raped, or hurt as prostitus though.
For those of you reading this- check out philosophytalk.com and go to prostitution to get a view from a Stanford professor on the subject.
I by no means disagree that its not all glamorous! But it is also not all gloom! I would not suggest it to someone unless they had a very thick skin, a good therapist and absolutely loved sex.
Have a good day.
look up the word Prostitution in the in the Dictionary
you,ll be shocked in what it actually means
prostitute means a harlot
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