Five ways to attract a man.
Ten ways to look REALLY sexy.
Secrets he really wants you to know.
Tips to know before you see a plastic surgeon.
Sexy looks for Spring.
How to make him want you bad.
Hot hair, gorgeous eyes, and kissable lips!
The list goes on and on....
What list you ask?
The list of front page stories in popular women's magazines at the check out counter of every store in America.
What is the message? What are they selling?
They are betting you want to please a man, and they want to show you how!
Why?
Of course to gain wealth! Beyond this, however, publicists and marketers are betting on the fact that you think a man will bring you happiness. Because you think that you must have a man to confirm your wonderfulness. Because you think you must please a man or you won't be worth anything.
All lies.
Ten ways to look REALLY sexy.
Secrets he really wants you to know.
Tips to know before you see a plastic surgeon.
Sexy looks for Spring.
How to make him want you bad.
Hot hair, gorgeous eyes, and kissable lips!
The list goes on and on....
What list you ask?
The list of front page stories in popular women's magazines at the check out counter of every store in America.
What is the message? What are they selling?
They are betting you want to please a man, and they want to show you how!
Why?
Of course to gain wealth! Beyond this, however, publicists and marketers are betting on the fact that you think a man will bring you happiness. Because you think that you must have a man to confirm your wonderfulness. Because you think you must please a man or you won't be worth anything.
All lies.
The truth?
You do not need a man to be happy.
You do not need a man to proclaim your worth.
You do not need a man to be wonderful.
In fact hooking up with a not so good guy is going to make you miserable, feel worthless, and think you are less than wonderful.
Now, don't get me wrong, great guys are, well great. Relationships can be fabulous. Partnership can be amazing. But you do not NEED a man to make you happy.
I'll repeat: You do not need a man to make you happy!
It is a myth that is not only outdated and archaic but damaging and harmful as well!
Lets go back in history for a minute...
For the past few millennia, women have indeed been dependent on men for their survival. Unless a woman was "attached" to a man (whether a wife, concubine, slave or a prostitute), she didn't survive well in this world.
As time progressed, a woman's worth became associated with how much pleasure she could provide for a man, either through bearing children or through her sexuality.
But guess what?
Women today do not need a man to survive and they do not need to depend on a man for their self worth.
So, the question is, why are women still living as if their very lives not to mention their happiness depend on pleasing a man?
Of course we want to be kind and loving to our partners. We want to bring them joy and happiness, but we most certainly do not need to feel our self worth is based on how sexually appealing we are to the male population.
When will women move on from this primitive mindset?
Will there come a time where women realize that happiness comes from living a good and healthy life? That happiness comes from overcoming challenges, sharing their gifts, and bringing joy to others. It comes from caring, serving, giving, and helping. It comes from developing talents, learning, and growing. It comes from dedicating one's life to something worthwhile. It comes from one's spiritual path or embracing one's personal journey.
The point is, many women today are getting caught up in the false notion that happiness equates to pleasing a man.
It is just not so.
I wonder what would happen if women focused on those things that truly bring happiness rather than spending their lives focusing on how to please men? I wonder how our world would change if women realized their self worth is not dependent on their form or sexual attractiveness? I wonder how our future may unfold if women moved beyond the myths and discovered their unique gifts and talents that can heal our world?
I ponder the possibilities!
You do not need a man to be happy.
You do not need a man to proclaim your worth.
You do not need a man to be wonderful.
In fact hooking up with a not so good guy is going to make you miserable, feel worthless, and think you are less than wonderful.
Now, don't get me wrong, great guys are, well great. Relationships can be fabulous. Partnership can be amazing. But you do not NEED a man to make you happy.
I'll repeat: You do not need a man to make you happy!
It is a myth that is not only outdated and archaic but damaging and harmful as well!
Lets go back in history for a minute...
For the past few millennia, women have indeed been dependent on men for their survival. Unless a woman was "attached" to a man (whether a wife, concubine, slave or a prostitute), she didn't survive well in this world.
As time progressed, a woman's worth became associated with how much pleasure she could provide for a man, either through bearing children or through her sexuality.
But guess what?
Women today do not need a man to survive and they do not need to depend on a man for their self worth.
So, the question is, why are women still living as if their very lives not to mention their happiness depend on pleasing a man?
Of course we want to be kind and loving to our partners. We want to bring them joy and happiness, but we most certainly do not need to feel our self worth is based on how sexually appealing we are to the male population.
When will women move on from this primitive mindset?
Will there come a time where women realize that happiness comes from living a good and healthy life? That happiness comes from overcoming challenges, sharing their gifts, and bringing joy to others. It comes from caring, serving, giving, and helping. It comes from developing talents, learning, and growing. It comes from dedicating one's life to something worthwhile. It comes from one's spiritual path or embracing one's personal journey.
The point is, many women today are getting caught up in the false notion that happiness equates to pleasing a man.
It is just not so.
I wonder what would happen if women focused on those things that truly bring happiness rather than spending their lives focusing on how to please men? I wonder how our world would change if women realized their self worth is not dependent on their form or sexual attractiveness? I wonder how our future may unfold if women moved beyond the myths and discovered their unique gifts and talents that can heal our world?
I ponder the possibilities!
8 thoughts and insights:
Again, I had to smile. The list at the beginning of your post is familiar to me from the magazine my wife reads. But she does not care about those "opportunities".
I agree with you that their is no need to have a man (or a woman) to be happy. It, to a great extend, depends on what one makes out of himself.
But then, it is also nice to have a man (or a woman) who proclaims your worth and who says how wonderful you are. And is very sincere and really means it. There are such men, I simply don't know how many.
i came across a blog that i had to tell you about, its called the dutch chronicles and this guy is such a jerk, i swear im not spamming, but the blog is so horrible its good. it's not meant to be anything just this 21 year old guy talking about women, your stereotypical male jerk, just thought you might enjoy it
Love Your blog!
Hi Jennifer, how are you?
"But you do not NEED a man to make you happy".
Cuts both ways doesn't it?
All the best
jj
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Hey Worldman,
Yes, it is nice to have someone to love and to be loved. YES, YES, YES.
I'm just hoping women will realize that having a man isn't the cure all for happiness, but happiness is found inside oneself.
Too often I hear women say that if they just had a relationship they would be happy... I think happiness comes first! :-)
Thanks for your wisdom and insights Peter...
Blessings and love to you,
Jen
Hey Girl from LA...
Thanks a big bunch!
Warmest wishes to you,
Jennifer
Hey, hey, JJ.... :-)
How are you? What is going on?
I haven't been blogging much these days but all is well!
And, YES, it goes both ways! :-)
Big hugs to you,
JJ
Hi Jennifer,
I'm new to your site and so far I love it. I'm single living in Atlanta, GA and words cannot explain how tuff it is to find a compatable mate but it took me while to realize that I do not need a man to be happy. I can finally exhale LOL!
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