A recent university study reports 49% of women admit to using their sexuality* to gain favors in the workplace.
No, no, no!
Ladies, we have come way too far to go back to a time where women were nothing but objects, where a woman's role was to serve the man, where her value was based on her contribution to a man.
If we want to be treated as equals, if we want to be respected as human beings, we simply cannot act as if we are nothing but a man's play thing as we try to use our form to get promotions or raises.
If we want to be respected, we must act respectable.
In addition to the above startling statistic, research also shows that women who use their sexuality at the work place have lower self-esteem than those who do not.
No surprises here. This statistic supports what we already know.
Women who are confident, secure, talented, smart, with a strong sense of self do not need to resort to using sex to get ahead in life. They know their worth and want to be valued by society as a fabulous woman.
Confident women are not looking for a man who thinks of woman as nothing but a form. Women with high self-esteem want a man who truly values and respects them for the great person they are.
Do you use your sexuality at work to get ahead?
Take the quiz and find out:
1. Do you dress provocatively around men at work?
2. Do you find yourself desiring compliments and looks from the men with whom you work?
3. Do you pay more attention to your appearance than you do your job?
4. Is your self-esteem tied up with how men react to your appearance?
5. Is your appearance crucial to your self-worth?
6. Do you have a history and/or tendency to flirt with men at work?
7. Have you recognized in yourself a lack of true confidence?
8. Do you believe your worth is based on how attractive you are to men?
9. Do you sometimes wish you didn't have to play the sexuality card?
10. Have others noticed your lack of self-esteem or use of sexuality in the workplace?
I'll let you decide if you fall into the category of using your sexuality to get ahead at work.
If you do, chances are you are having some self-esteem issues.
How do you resolve these challenges?
You work on yourself. You become confident. You find your gifts, your talents, your abilities. You surround yourself with those who are not concerned with your appearance. You find your value in being a good human being, helping others, making a real difference.
You do not resort to using sex to get ahead.
This is not the 13th century. We have moved into a time when many women throughout the world can be educated, have opportunities, and be valued for their unique contributions to the world.
There is NO need to move back into the Dark Ages where a woman's value was in her form.
Lets move on!
One more thing, in this study, the women who used their sexuality to try to get ahead were actually valued less and received fewer promotions than their more respectable counterparts.
Moral of the story: using sex at work to get ahead not only shows a lack of self-esteem, it just doesn't work these days!
*Using one's sexuality included wearing short skirts, showing cleavage, flirting with one's boss, etc.
No, no, no!
Ladies, we have come way too far to go back to a time where women were nothing but objects, where a woman's role was to serve the man, where her value was based on her contribution to a man.
If we want to be treated as equals, if we want to be respected as human beings, we simply cannot act as if we are nothing but a man's play thing as we try to use our form to get promotions or raises.
If we want to be respected, we must act respectable.
In addition to the above startling statistic, research also shows that women who use their sexuality at the work place have lower self-esteem than those who do not.
No surprises here. This statistic supports what we already know.
Women who are confident, secure, talented, smart, with a strong sense of self do not need to resort to using sex to get ahead in life. They know their worth and want to be valued by society as a fabulous woman.
Confident women are not looking for a man who thinks of woman as nothing but a form. Women with high self-esteem want a man who truly values and respects them for the great person they are.
Do you use your sexuality at work to get ahead?
Take the quiz and find out:
1. Do you dress provocatively around men at work?
2. Do you find yourself desiring compliments and looks from the men with whom you work?
3. Do you pay more attention to your appearance than you do your job?
4. Is your self-esteem tied up with how men react to your appearance?
5. Is your appearance crucial to your self-worth?
6. Do you have a history and/or tendency to flirt with men at work?
7. Have you recognized in yourself a lack of true confidence?
8. Do you believe your worth is based on how attractive you are to men?
9. Do you sometimes wish you didn't have to play the sexuality card?
10. Have others noticed your lack of self-esteem or use of sexuality in the workplace?
I'll let you decide if you fall into the category of using your sexuality to get ahead at work.
If you do, chances are you are having some self-esteem issues.
How do you resolve these challenges?
You work on yourself. You become confident. You find your gifts, your talents, your abilities. You surround yourself with those who are not concerned with your appearance. You find your value in being a good human being, helping others, making a real difference.
You do not resort to using sex to get ahead.
This is not the 13th century. We have moved into a time when many women throughout the world can be educated, have opportunities, and be valued for their unique contributions to the world.
There is NO need to move back into the Dark Ages where a woman's value was in her form.
Lets move on!
One more thing, in this study, the women who used their sexuality to try to get ahead were actually valued less and received fewer promotions than their more respectable counterparts.
Moral of the story: using sex at work to get ahead not only shows a lack of self-esteem, it just doesn't work these days!
*Using one's sexuality included wearing short skirts, showing cleavage, flirting with one's boss, etc.
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