As we look around the world, it appears that many women are holding onto maladaptive ideas about what makes a good man.
Yes, we have genetic tendencies that many lead us to be attracted to a particular type of man but the truth is, we also have brains and can move beyond our primitive instincts. We can release some of those animalistic ideas, in fact we must if we want to find a good man.
While our primitive ancestor sisters may have needed a man who could catch an animal in the wilderness, or protect us from a tiger, guess what? We no longer live in that world.
While our human ancestors may have benefited from a rich and powerful man, reality is, the rich and powerful today do not necessarily make good partners.
To help you consciously understand what a good man is, here are five myths about men. Myths that would be best released if you want to find a good man:
1. Wealth does not equate to a good man.
2. Physical attractiveness does not equate to a good man.
3. Power does not equate to a good man.
4. Domination does not equate to a good man.
5. Sexual conquests do not equate to a good man.
Women who buy into these myths are allowing their primitive instincts dominate what is true.
The truth is, a good man may not be rich or powerful or gorgeous. These five traits say nothing about who will be faithful, caring, compassionate, dedicated, committed, and honest. They saying absolutely nothing about a man's ability to care for his family. They say nothing about a man's ability to be a good husband or partner.
In fact, it could easily be argued that some of these traits actually are at the root of those not-so-great men of which we discuss on this blog.
We are not living in prehistoric times when we needed a man to protect us from wild animals. Nor are we living in ancient times when a woman depended on the good graces of men for survival.
Today, you can choose a good and decent man with whom you can share your life.
The first requirement in doing so is to realize what false beliefs are hanging on in your DNA!
Let go of the myths!
3 thoughts and insights:
Great article and so true! I'd be happy with a dependable and honest man that is just crazy about me. Thanks for sharing.
That is so true. I can't agree with you more. It's too bad more women don't realize this.
You have a good heart, and I wish what you say was true but it's very idealistic.
I'm a guy whose not rich, or good looking, or powerful and at the age of 25 I've only managed one girlfriend in my entire life (and that in itself was very short lived and depended on a number of lucky factors coming together at the right time).
Women don't look twice at people like me because they know that a man whose rich, good looking or powerful is statistically more likely to be able to make them feel safe and looked after as well as show them a good time and provide them with a feeling of high status, which, as social animals is very important to most humans. Nature doesn't change to make way for contemporary trends, and when post 1960's feminism is consigned to the dusty textbooks of history women will still be chained to their instinctive urges to seek out a superior male from the crowd.
I'm not saying it's right (it sure as hell sucks for people like me) I'm just saying there's no denying that humans are vastly more attached to our animal instincts than we ever previously imagined. Me, I'll most likely end up dying alone in the cold, but as a species these instincts have served the human animal well.
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