Do You Deserve a Good Man?

Often women find themselves in relationships with less than great guys because consciously or unconsciously they do not think they deserve a good man.

Do they?

Well, that depends.

Of course ideally it would be wonderful if every woman and every man found a fabulous and truly great partner. As human beings each person deserves to be loved and cherished. Obviously.

But lets look at the real world for a minute.

Should a woman who is dishonest, cruel, unkind, lazy and addicted to a few illegal substances expect that a truly great man will want her as a lifetime partner, and perhaps mother of his children?

Is it realistic for a mean-spirited, crass, cheating, woman who sleeps with every guy she meets at the bar, to think an incredible and noble man is going to want her as his future wife?

This blog is about helping women find great men. I discuss what it means to be a great man, and help women identify those men who are not so great.

But it is also important to remind ourselves that truly great men want great women.

Do great men always pick great women? No. But certainly great men do not want to partner with women who are miserable, tawdry, mean-hearted, and selfish.

If you have been involved with less than great men, it may be wise to take a good hard look at yourself and see if there are reasons you are continually picking not so great guys.

Now, please read the following very carefully.

I am NOT blaming women for the bad behavior of men. I realize that many men initially appear great and can put on a fabulous and convincing show. I understand there are GREAT women who find not so wonderful men. If you have picked less than great guys it does not mean you are not a good woman.

If you are in any of the above situations this post does not apply to you. In other words, if you are a great woman you can rest assured the problem is not that YOU are not a good human being.

This article is addressed to those women who engage in behavior that is less than desirable, who know they should clean up their lives, and who can look at themselves and see that a great man may not be interested in them due to their unhealthy, rude, irritating, illegal, or otherwise despicable behavior.

It is unrealistic for a woman to expect a relationship with a great man unless she is doing what she can to be a good human being as well.

Does being a great woman guarantee you will find a great and wonderful man? No. It does however increase the chances.

And, not only will you be more likely to find a good man if you are a good woman, you will find that your life takes on a depth and meaning impossible to acquire while living an emotionally, physically, and spiritually unhealthy life.

If you need to make some changes in your life, make them.

If you need to get some help, get some!