Many of us live in a society where women are objectified. It is ubiquitous and virtually permeates ever corner of our culture.
What we may not discuss as openly is how we objectify men.
We live in a world where men are largely valued by how much money they make, what kind of job they have, and how much power they wield.
While we may not objectify men in terms of appearance to the extent we do women, there is certainly a tendency to equate a man's worth with his position or power or fame.
The honest truth is...
A man's power or position are not equal to his goodness.
In fact it may be the case that the men with the most power are not as decent and great as your average man.
If you are wanting a healthy relationship, a devoted and caring husband, or a faithful and honest man in your life, searching after the wealthy and powerful may be counter productive.
I'm not suggesting that there are not great men who have money and positions of power... of course there are. I know many great men who are wealthy and decent.
What I am saying is that power and wealth are not good indicators of who will be a wonderful husband. Further, fame and glory do not equate to decency and true greatness.
There are great men who are not rich and famous, who do not drive a BMW, or travel the world. Often, these great men are trying to make a difference in their chosen field and are more concerned with being a good human being than they are gathering possessions, or ruling the world.
It is high time we stop equating a man's worth with his bank account!
14 thoughts and insights:
Good Friday afternoon to you, Jennifer !
Good point to make ! A hard worker matters 9as long as he isn't a work-aholic who deliberately makes no time for a woman because he is emotionally unavailable).
A man who loves what he does is a good thing.
A man who is financially stable and handles his bills responsibly is important.
A man who is capable is a turn-on.
But wealth just for the sake of wealth and power just for the sake of power do NOT equal goodness on their own.
Loving Annie
Jen,
Well said! Look into a man's heart to know who he truly is, not his wallet.
Hi Annie...
Absolutely!
Money is not the determining factor!
BTW... I'm thinking you found a great man there girlfriend! ;-)
You are taking it nice and slow.... good job! (smile)
JJ
Hi Mark...
Exactly!
Thanks for this!
And thanks for your blog from which I am continually inspired and uplifted!
Blessings always,
jen
Can you tell all Jewish Princesses this please?
I say only one thing: You are 1'000 percent right.
Thanks and Amen for this post. Please tell more men this too. I wish that they would understand that some women want great morals, a great heart and a loving spirit more than your paycheck. If that was understood, that really GREAT women want these things more than the executive with a corner office who cannot spend any quality time with them, the gender and relationship wars would calm down a bit.
Nikita
Hi Jeremy... LOL!
Yeah, just send them to my blog and I'll set them straight! ;-)
Hope all is well my friend,
JJ
Hi Peter...
You always put a smile on my face!
Hugs to you,
Jen
Hi Nikita...
I'm happy to have you here and you are exactly correct!
Great women want a great man... they are not about the superficial nonsense!
Excellent point!
Blessings to you,
Jennifer
Good Topic, not enough detail..
What doesnt count as a good catch?
Lets keep it 100% honest. There are a lot of good dudes out there, but there are 2 majors problems to deal with.
One. Which is my personal fav. There are not a lot of good women out there. Good as in make a good wife.
Two. Alot of women arent attracted to them.. OPPS, was that not suppose to be said..?
Alot of good guys are not confident.
Dont know how to handle women.
Dont know what to say to women.
Dont attract them physically.
Dont please them sexually.
So of course a guy like that has no choice but to be good.
Question ladies. Say you find a good dude who instead follows your lead. Instead of being the head of the family, he expects you to be the head. How long will you stay around?
Dont a lot of yall want a guy who is aggressive. What if you find a guy who is good, but not aggressive with you. He always waits for you to make a move.
how long will you stay around?
The problem is, pay close attention, A lot of the time, what yall are ATTRACTED to, a bunch of other women are attracted to. meaning you have to compete.
So if your fat, ugly and smelly. And your man has game, and you stand next to a women who is IN-SHAPE, ugly and smelly. He is going for the in-shape one.
Or if your standing next to a woman who is fat, PRETTY and smelly.
he is going for the pretty one.
Its all about options ladies. Step your qualities up and you will get better guys..
The End.
I support equal objectification of men! As in, if women can be sexy, so can men. If women can dress up and look nice and take care in their appearance, so should men!
Objectifying mens looks will only turn them into metrosexuals. All objectification is wrong.
Most men work for money. Go to school for money. The pressure causes them to pursue money rather than an enjoyable career.
Women can get away with a more rewarding career rather than a "job".
Porn def objectifies women and hurts men too.
As more men choose to be single they will begin to embrace better jobs. Only changes to unfair divorce laws will get them to make sacrifices and attain a wife and raise kids.
You know I have not come across many women who value a guy based on money. But the ones I do are simply the coldest people you will ever meet! And for the guys that value women based on how much pleasure she gives him are the creepiest, most sneaky guys you will ever meet.
Great post. Men are equal to women in a lot of ways, and should be treated with respect..not worship..respect, as a fellow human. Same with women!
Right on..
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