
We all know one.
Guys who think they are perfect.
It is the bosses fault if he gets fired
The teacher's fault if he gets a poor grade.
The Police officer's fault if he gets a ticket.
And his partner's fault if anything goes wrong in a relationship.
Everything else is his parent's fault.
For these guys life is about blame, blame, and more blame.
They do not take responsibility for their lives, and they are a victim in nearly every situation.
To be fair, this particular type of behavior, with work and care can be improved but until that happens guys who are into blame and victimhood are not the type of guys that make for a good partner.
What happens when a guy will not honestly look at his own issues, is that someone will take the blame for virtually everything in his life. The easiest person to blame is often the one who is trying the hardest to be supportive and make things work out.
Over time, the blame gets tiresome. Either the woman learns that the guy has some issues and needs to take some responsibility for his life, or, the woman starts believing that she is the root cause of all his problems and difficulties in life.
If a guy is thinking he is perfect, and can do no wrong, best allow him to discover on his own how to take responsibility for his life before you get into a relationship where you will be an easy target for blame!




14 thoughts and insights:
Hello Jennifer..
Thanks for your visit and I really appreciated it.That good to be loved!
For this post -Guys who Think they are Perfect one word suit to them is about EGO..and normally their never feel guilty.
Oh ya I just put your link in my blog .So I hope we have connection each other.
Thanks in advance.
Hi laling...
Thanks for linking my site... yours is linked as well!
And... thanks for your comment!
Yep.. the ego is the issue!
Lots of love,
jen
hehe, Jen, you forgot friends ..
Some of "everything else is parents`s fault" are going on friends shoulders.
What`s funny is that those will still be considered friends, even after they are "blamed".
On the other hand, you are awared that peoples (mens, womans and any other :-P ) are lazy. Maybe you don`t write here for lazy peoples, yet giv`em a chance : pit that "This site is not about male bashing" text on top of left sidebar. trust me, it will have amazing effect in (very) long time terms...
Hi jennifer!
Its so right!! And not only blaming.. Someone who does not realise or admit his mistakes and always blames others never improves, because to improve u first need to accept that u need to improve.
Great stuff
Hey Valentin...
Nice to have you here! :-)
I wrote that little part about parent in jest! (smile) You are correct that friends get blamed too.. for sure!
I have "laziness" on my list to blog about... so I will get to it for sure! :-) Laziness is definitely not helpful to a relationship!
Thank you for the tip to put the sidebar material in the top of the side bar.
I'm actually planning on turning this site into a thee column one, when I get the time.
I am very slow when it comes to tech changes but hopefully within the week I will get it done!
Wishing you a great day Val...
Jen
Hi Nidhi...
Excellent point!
You are so right, blaming others not only makes for a difficult relationship it thwarts development of one's own character!
Thank you for this fabulous insight!
Blessings to you,
Jen
Amazing blog you have here Jennifer. I'm pretty glad I have found yours.
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If I thought I was perfect, I would not be a decent guy. Things go wrong and I find that most of the time I am to be blamed. This still does not make me perfect, but a tiny wee bit decent??
Hi Sefiant,
Thanks and I will most certianly check out your site!
It sounds like you are doing great things!
Warmest wishes to you,
jennifer
Hi Peter...
LOL! You are much more than a tiny wee bit decent! You are fabulously decent! ;-)
Yep, guys that are great are guys who think they are good and decent men doing their best, but the guys who think they are perfect, and everyone else isn't, well... they are just not exactly as perfect s they think! (smile)!
Hope your day is a great one Peter,
Jen
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