Don't Lower Your Standards

I'm all for compromise in a relationship. I think compromise is essential to having a really healthy partnership.

However, there is never a reason you should feel it necessary in a relationship to give up your personal standards of morality, integrity, or decency.

Any guy who requires you to lower your personal standards is not a good match for you.

Occasionally I hear women think they must accept the lower standards of a man in order to remain in a relationship. Whether it means using illegal drugs, accepting pornography, engaging in behaviors that seem unhealthy or indecent, or anything else, if you have standards of belief or behavior that you feel are right or good or important, a decent man will not require you to let go of them.

Decent men respect and honor the individual beliefs of others. Whether it is your religious beliefs, your personal ideas of integrity, or your philosophical or political ideals, great men respect them and have no wish to make you change.

If a man insists you engage in behavior with which you are ideologically or religiously uncomfortable, or he will leave you, best let him go.

This is not about one way, belief, or ideal being better than another, nor is it about one way of living being the "right" way.

It is about you remaining true to your personal standards and finding a guy who respects and honors your truths and ideals.

Women that alter or lower their personal or religious views or standards for a man typically find themselves feeling unauthentic and harmed by the relationship.

Best find a man who respects you and your beliefs.