Is rape ever the woman's fault?
No! Absolutely not.
I don't care if a woman is passed out lying naked on the living room floor.
Sexually using someone's body without their permission for selfish sexual pleasure is wrong and it is rape.
Many a night I have awoken to the alarming ring of my pager, an emergency room physician or police officer asking for help for a sexual assault survivor.
No matter how many women I see, it doesn't soften the horror of sexual assault.
While we can't prevent rape, and while rape is never the woman's fault, I urge every women to take whatever precautions possible to be safe.
A few guidelines...
Always meet in public places, until you are very sure of your safety.
Do not accept drinks from strangers or anyone you do not trust.
Do not allow yourself to be alone or isolated until you are assured of safety.
Do not assume you know the intentions of those who you date.
Do not dull your senses with drugs or alcohol while dating.
Do not get in a car with someone you do not know well.
Do not give out personal information until you are confident you are safe.
Keep your place of residence locked and secure at all times.
Keep your cell phone handy and charged at all times.
And... always, ALWAYS trust your instincts.
If you feel uncomfortable remove yourself from the situation.
As I have stated on this blog many times... your senses pick up information prior to your conscious mind understanding it. You may feel tenseness in your gut, little flashes of warnings in your mind, or moments of being uneasy or uncomfortable. These are warning signs. Take them seriously.
Better to be safe than sorry.
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Very useful tips Jen sweetheart!
I can't imagine anyone thinking that rape is excusable under any circumstance and I have noticed that men are becoming targets by groups of men...I am utterly appalled!
BIG kiss!
Hey Sweetie...
Rape is something we, as a society don't like to talk about because it so horrific but it needs to be discussed in order to bring awareness to it and have it end!
There is just no excuse!
Hope you are well dear one...
XO,
Jen
That INCLUDES not being truthful with the woman or LYING to her to get her to sleep with you.
It is a form of emotional & sexual rape.
Thanks for sharing these tips. Rape is not about sex. Rape is about anger and control. I am an incest survivor. It has taken years of work to have a reasonably good life. Now one of the topics that I write about on my blog is about my recovery from incest, hoping to help others who may still be there in the pain.
Of course its not the womans fault..
But tell me, if she likes it should the guy still go to jail..?
Or will she pretend like she doesnt like it to not seem like a hoe..?
Not a rapist, just playing the devil's advocate, Im curious to feedback.
Rape is never wanted or liked by its very definition. The reality of rape is that it is about violence and hatred.
When i was raped and also taken advantage of sexually when I was only 16 (and most of the perpetrators almost 30), people often even blamed it on me. when i tried to tell the police, they were hostile with me and asked for every single detail which i felt was very uncomfortable. they even seemed to think it was my fault, like im some sort of adult as a 16 yr old!
and then, they never even tried to call the men, they just let it go and forgot about it. if im ever raped again i know that im never going to the police
Rape can be a woman's fault, however, rape is never the victim's fault. Just remember the news about females teachers sleeping with their students.
I was raped as well. Like some of you said about the cops not treating you well, the cops did not treat me well either. One cop screamed at me and blamed me for it. He told me never to tell again. Something happened to me recently and my husband wanted me to go to the cops but I refused, in fear of being blamed for the stuff. I will NEVER go to the police again for any kind of assault, especially rape/sexual assault. The victim is always to blame in society's eyes and it is so unfair. No wonder rape is the most under reported crime.
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