I was recently out to dinner and observed the action at the bar.
I'm going to say what I think is obvious but obviously needs to be said.
Ladies.... guys that are at the bar looking for a woman to pick up are not looking for a long term, healthy, mature relationship.
If you want to be used by a guy, or if you just want some action, then hang out at the bar all you want (not that I recommend it).
If however, you are looking for a guy to have a relationship with, look somewhere else. Find a guy who is interested in you, not a guy who will take anyone who is available in the local bar.
Women who get picked up by a guy at the bar, then get disappointed because he doesn't call again wonder what they did wrong.
What they did wrong was have unrealistic expectations.
Think about it... if you were a great guy who wanted a great wife, would you want a relationship with a women who is hanging out at the bar going home with any guy who happens to notice them?
No... you would want a woman who refused to be used. A woman who knows her value and is not so desperate that she would fall for a guy hanging out at the bar.
Great guys are not hanging out in the bar looking for someone to use.
2 thoughts and insights:
So very true. The other unfortunate thing you might find at the bar is an alcoholic - definitely not a candidate for a healthy relationship.
I have never found long term casual friends in the bars. So you know you probably won't find a partner.
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