If a guys priorities are askew there will be problems.
We all have things that are important to us. Some things are more important than others. We have limited time and energy so we prioritize and naturally focus our attention on those things that are more important, while the less important things receive less focus.
So, it is important to know what one's priorities are and to know what the priorities are of our partner, loved one, or potential spouse.
Now, we are all different and there is plenty of room for variety and individuality.
But one's priorities often give important clues as to what will receive attention, care, focus, and even love in one's life. Having priorities askew doesn't mean one can't have various interests, it mean some interests should not be as important as others.
So, what does it mean for a guy to have his priorities askew? Let me give you some examples.
If a guy is more interested in watching a football game than being at a child's birth there is something amiss.
If a guy is more concerned with a fantasy woman on TV than he is with his real life significant other, there will be problems.
If a guy thinks his car is more important than his grandmother, he is showing what is important in his life.
Take note of how a guys spends his time and how he prioritizes the activities in his life. This will show you what is really important to him.
If his priorities are centered on selfishness and self-serving behavior you may want to reevaluate and reconsider!
8 thoughts and insights:
Our priorities speak loads about us absolutely!
Hey Tisha.. Yep, those whose priorites are askew need some help! :-)
What about the skewed priorities of women.
- If she is more interested in getting "the Ring" than she is about cooking you dinner it's time to Dump That Bitch.
-If she spends all of HIS money on clothes and make-up and then bitches at him for not getting a "Big Enough" Valentines Day gift, it's time to Dump That Bitch.
If she complians about him not spending enough time with her because he is always at work but then complains that there's not enough money to do the things SHE wants to do, it's time to Dump That Bitch.
I could go on and on about this and even start my own blog but that would be petty much like this is.
I'm not saying there are no Jerks out there but where's information here to help women realize that some of thier complaints are unfound?
Hi Me... :-) Thanks for your thoughts on this. You are certainly correct that there are "less than great women" out there as well. I have a little "disclaimer" in the sidebar acknolwedging this. If I had more time I would start another blog helping guys find great women (smile) but my observation is that guys are better at picking women than women are at picking men. I could be wrong on this but for the women and men I know this seems to be the case. My hope is, that this blog will not only help women notice what makes a great man, but will help her notice in herself her values and what is important to her. So, please feel free to share your thoughts and insights. And, I would totally encourage you to start a blog for guys! :-) Just don't go with the "women should be cooking dinner" thing OK? LOL! Thanks a bunch! Jennifer
This topic and you blog has consumed my thought this afternoon and I'm leaning towards starting the "How to Tell If You Should Dump Her Ass Blog". I do agree that the "women should be cooking dinner while bare foot and pregnant" mind set should be taken out of the equation. I personally cook for my fiancé 3 to 4 times a week, so I’ve never agreed with that. But there is a need for the other side to own up to their own short-comings. Which in my “travels” will never happen unless there is a basic respect for each person in the relationship.
The frustration I'm reading in my own comments here (now that i can sit back and actually read what I said and not just franticly knee-jerk typing it out) stems from the lack of balance the situation receives, Man and Relationship Vs. Woman and Relationship - note I did not say Man Vs. Woman. When it boils down to the Man Vs. Woman (which is what I see plastered all over your blog) the common bonds of relationships seem to be removed and the hereditary prejudice of male stereotypes supersede the common sense of rational thinking. A.K.A. - "All men scratch their balls and ignore the woman on the couch wanting a "Quickie"
So when your readers see what the opposite sex “Always does” it A) makes for great reading B) comforts the person reading because they seem to “relate” to what they are reading and C) when they do “relate” they read all the other things they have not thought about which their partner may or may-not do but still equate the negative connotations of the “Blog Post” as something they should look out for, when in fact it’s never bothered them before.
Look, I’m a normal guy, I make $70K per year making video games, been in and out of many relationships but have found one that’s lasted several years and just got engaged for the FIRST TIME at 32 y/o. 6 years in the Army and one year of college. I do not have a college degree and have never taken a Psych. 101 course. I’m just calling it like I see it. No more, no less.
My current relationship seems to last because we compromise on certain things, allow ourselves to have fights and call it “maintenance” because that’s what it is, and realize that we just not going to agree on everything but that’s what makes us who we are, I am going to watch sports and drink with “the boys” and scratch my nuts. She’s going to go shopping, have girls’ night out and have uncontrollable temper-tantrums once a month. Accept it. We have and it’s made living together and loving each other so much easier. Dragging all the negative, natural, things that have been generalized by a certain sex does nothing but help instill the negative connotations of the opposite sex. This only promotes people to look to harshly at one possible “Jerk” move without taking into consideration all the great things they have.
Hi ME... ahhh sorry you have had difficulty with this blog. Hmmmm I'm REALLY doing my best to focus on the great men out there. The men in my life are FANTASTIC guys! Virtually all the guys I know are totally great! I'm quite sure you are great too! Did you read the post on men not being perfect? Did you read the posts about great men? All the examples? How about the post about a great man doesn't have to be rich or famous? My deep hope is to get women to realize that there are great men out there. It sounds to me like you are a wonderful guy with a great and happy relationship! This is fantastic! I'm sure your partner would suggest you are a great man. She found a good guy with whom she could share her life. This is my hope for single women searching for a decent man! You would be an example. Anyway, I truly appreciate your feedback and thoughts. Please feel free to vent or express your thoughts or even email me if you want. :-) jennifer
I enjoy you blogs! You are so right. Men are much better at find great woman than the other way around. I've dated so many jerks that I do not trust my judgment any more. Dating is still very scary......
I think his priorities are out of whack but he thinks I should just accept that he makes me wait while he takes his ex-wifes daily long phone calls. They have been divorced for years and their children are grown and the ex likes to call and chat about what seem to be "playing the good wife" housekeeping issues. Like his house insurance. I have explained that I find it offensive and disrespectful to me (and it shortchanges our limited time together) but he feels that for the sake of the children he has to take her calls. He rarely calls her. He said that the ex's behaviour was so abusive it was like being in a world war, and now she has calmed down so he feels grateful and likes to take her neverending calls. When given the choice between our great relationship and her daily calls, he chose the latter. I am not sure, but I think his priorities are askew.
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