
When it comes to relationships, I often suggest women "listen to their gut."
If you want to know if a man is cheating... listen to your gut.
If you want to know if a man is in love with you... listen to your gut.
If you want to know if a man is honest... listen to your gut.
Now, I'm not suggesting you don't analyze, review, and process information. Not at all. What I am suggesting is that our bodies know more than we realize, and our instincts can be more reliable that our conscious minds acknowledge.
Research has shown, time and time again, that our bodies can pick up information long before our conscious mind is aware of it.
Let me be a little more clear....
Our bodies are constantly picking up all sorts of information through our senses. We are literally bombarded with thousands of bits of information that our brains do not bring to our conscious awareness. Right now, your body has a sense of your form in space (proprioceptive information); your skin is receiving information concerning textures, temperature and weight; your eyes can see much more than you need to at this particular moment; your ears are receiving sounds you are not paying attention to. All this information is entering your brain, but your brain learns to tune out that information which it does not need in your conscious awareness at this moment.
But, what we know is that the information is available and your body responds to information without your consciousness being a part of the process.
When someone is lying, even before you may "know" it consciously, your body often will show signs of stress. If someone is interested in you, your subconscious can pick up clues of which you are completely unaware. Your senses are picking up all sorts of little nuances, glances, facial expressions, and a host of other non-verbal clues and signals.
When I say, "listen to your gut", I'm suggesting that your instincts, your subconscious may be trying to give you information that will benefit you.
Here is what sometimes happens... you get a certain sense (your gut tries to tell you something), but your mind second guesses what is going on. Why? Because the information may be something you don't want to hear, your mind may not want to believe it, or your emotions do not want to face it.
So, your brain ignores, represses, denies, or doesn't listen to what your body and instincts may be telling you.
Now... while I often suggest you "listen to your gut", I'm NOT suggesting you go overboard and stop thinking or go with every little quirky thought that crosses your mind. Please take note! I'm suggesting you listen to your instincts and take in what your body may be telling you. "Listen to your gut," doesn't mean be stupid!
Just know you are smarter than you think!




12 thoughts and insights:
So true, we don't listen closely enough and we would avoid so much hardship if we would pay more attention to our guts.
Being a highly sensitive person myself I sometimes have to hold back sharing those guts feelings with others because it freaks them out.
Yeah Tisha... so many people stay in the reasoning/logic/concrete paradigm and are afraid to listen to their hearts and bodies! :-)
jennifer
You are so right about this. The worst experiences I have ever had with people are when everything was telling me to stay away and I got caught up in trying not to "judge" people and pushed myself into giving them a chance. Or an opportunity.
Hi Fs.... ahhh well in spite of all the research I have read on this topic (which is pretty extensive)... I learned this lesson the hard way! AARRGGHHH!!!!
:-)
Jennifer
You are so right. The body picks up all of the subtle signals our minds and heart often miss. Its an ealry warning systme. This is important - thanks for writing about it.
Hi Dave.... exactly! I like the "early warning system" term! We sometimes forget we have this right inside of us! :-)
Thanks for this...
Jennifer
This is so very true. My boyfriend lied to me about a night a few weeks ago - he was with another woman. That entire day I felt upset and that night I was out alone and just realized that I knew....and I was right. Texted him and asked him how his date enjoyed the evening. If something feels very wrong, it unfortunately - probably is.
Great post.
PS - love your site!
Hi Anon...
Thanks a bunch!
I'm glad you found my site!
Warmest wishes,
Jen
Hi Anon...
Thanks a bunch!
I'm glad you found my site!
Warmest wishes,
Jen
very precise words with the facts u got there jen. yeah..u're right. oweyz i dun follow wuts my heart/gut says cz i was afraid of being look like a fool.but more i refuse the gut, more i gotten be a fool n out-of-control. love cant be rationalized. thank you anyway.
p.s: love the sweet pinkish page.
even before your gut tells you something is true it is common to have thoughts that suggest the gut felt situation even before it happens- like a sort of preview of whats to come I think
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