Guys that won't commit.Let me first say, guys that won't commit are not necessarily jerks. But, there are reasons some guys won't commit and this red flag cannot be ignored if you want a healthy, happy, emotionally mature relationship.
Some guys are fearful of any relationship, others are unsure of their particular love interest or don't want their particular partner as a long term companion.
There are those men who enjoy being single and just plain don't want all that comes with sharing one's life in a committed way.
Regardless of the reason, if you want a healthy relationship you need to be honest about what is going on.
If you are looking for a long term relationship or marriage, you must ask yourself if you want to be with a man who doesn't really want to be with you long term. Do you want to be with a guy who is unable to be with one woman? Or a man who doesn't want to share his life with you?
If you are looking for a long term, committed relationship, don't let yourself be used by a guy who just wants you for a convenience.
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And many are also afraid of starting a family, as if the woman does have enough love to go around. I have noticed that many men, and I dont mean to stereotype but they want exclusive attention and the thought of having a baby around that will take that attention from them is troubling.
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Hi Tisha... good point. Yes there are certainly men who don't want to share "their woman". :-(
And, thanks for your thoughts on my layout. I'm exploring some ideas but my tech abilities are pretty limited! I'm actually totally impressed with the fact that I have even created a blog at all! LOL!
You go girl! And if there is ever anything I can do to help with the template you holler! I charge a smile an hour!!
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I'm not convinced the idea that "'Their' woman doesn't have enough love to go around" is a primary reason some men don't want children. What about those who hold a sincere, informed belief that the Earth is overpopulated?
As for "fear of commitment": What about all the horror stories of guys getting skinned alive in messy divorces? Family law is stuck in "woman good, man bad" mode, so a woman can--and many do--falsely accuse her husband of abuse or molestation, get a restraining order, lock him out of the marital home on a trumped-up accusation, empty out the joint bank accounts, take the children and skip town (or some combination thereof). Until and unless the presumption of innocence and the right to due process applies to family law, it is foolish for a man to place himself in such jeopardy.
50% of all marriages end in divorce (and women initiate about 2/3 of divorces, usually because "he's not interesting enough anymore", not because of bona fide abuse), and maybe half of all surviving marriages are unhappy. Therefore, the odds of a happy marriage are only about 25%--not good enough.
Hi Sydney,
Thanks for your comments!
If a woman wants a long term committed relationship, or a healthy marriage, she will not be a good match for a guy who is looking for something else. :-)
Some women need to be honest about their relationship and realize when they are with a guy who doesn't have the same goals as does she.
:-)
Warmest wishes,
Jennifer
Hi Jennifer!
You are doing a lot of good work for women with this blog and I thank you for that. I've been dating the same guy for almost five months. He is still active on his online account which bothers me (but then I look too). He also does everything I could wish for in that he holds doors open, goes to events that I care about and has even made me dinner. However, I wonder if he will actually commit to me because we don't talk about it. He doesn't seem to make any serious sexual moves with me either. I am meeting his dad on Thanksgiving weekend so it looks like it is progressing. Also when I was robbed, he called in late to work when he shouldn't have to be with me and hold me while I waited for my sister to come over (she lives out of town). So he doesn't say he likes me or loves me but I do feel he shows it. However, I am just not sure where we are. I think he wants to take things slow because I know in his youth he was quite the party animal (and I was the geeky academic, well I still am). I am also afraid to ask him because I don't want to rock the boat and push him into something that is too soon or assume something isn't correct.
Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for writing!
From your comment is sounds like this is a great guy but more of a "friend" relationship.
Is that about right?
Typically, when guys want to have an actual relationship they let you know but if he is not giving you clear signs that he is hoping to have you as something more, it may be a good idea to have a discussion.
I know it is not always easy, still, it may help you to know where the friendship is going if anywhere!
Lots of luck sweetie,
Jennifer
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