If your family and friends do not like the guy you are dating, take note!We all know, love is blind. Sometimes, when we are in that initial romance, infatuation stage of a relationship we are truly blind to reality. We ignore red flags or minimize concerns. Our friends and family may not be so quick to overlook these warnings!
If your friends and family show concerns or notice some unhealthy behavior, step back and listen to their observations and insights. Open your eyes and look at the situation with a fresh perspective.
Now, of course there are those weird, unhealthy families out there who are just not going to like anyone, and there are "friends" who don't have your best interest in mind. But if your family loves you, and if your friends care about you, listen to them.
I'm not suggesting family and friends are always right, nor am I saying you should always take advice from others. I'm suggesting if you are in the infatuation stage of a relationship and your loved ones notice some serious issues, it is a good idea to take note!
4 thoughts and insights:
Why I disagree
Unless your family and your so called friends have observed your partner very closely, I don't think taking their advice will be of great help.
Listen to them, but remember that they don't know the reasons that you know for any action your partner takes. You can predict his acts in better way than your family and friends.
Hi Nahuatl,
Yes, you are right. This tip is conditional on family and friends who actually "know" the guy.
I can't tell you how many times women will tell me, after finding out a guy is not so great, that their family and friends warned them.... but they didn't want to listen.
And, of course if family and friends don't care for a guy it doesn't ALWAYS mean the guy is not decent.
But... if family and friends are seeing things that a woman isn't, it is good for a woman to stand back and take a good look at what is going on!
:-)
Thanks for your thoughts,
jennifer
Nahuatl - you have a good point there, they don't spend the amount of time we do with our partners.
My parents strongly disapproved of my choice for a partner because he is of a different religion but I stuck to my guns because I knew he was worth the while and today that they have gotten to know him they adore him and their reasons for disliking were purely discriminatory.
Well I talk too much...
No Tisha... you never talk too much! LOL!
OK.. I went back and clarified my advice! :-)
I can't tell you how many women, after breaking up with a not so good guy have stated that everyone told them the guy was no good, or their friends never liked him, or they ignored early signs of problems...
But this of course, is not to say friends are always right or know what is best.
:-)
Jennifer
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