We all need some relaxation and fun in life. We require some "down time".
What we do not need is a daily five hour dose of video games.
Guys who spend more time playing Play Station 3, then they do earning a living, or engaging in real life have some issues and are not the type of guy you want to partner with for the rest of your life!
Life is a constant effort to balance our needs. Sometimes we must work late, other times we may require more centering and relaxation. Finding healthy outlets to reduce stress and unwind are great. Obsessing with the latest video game day in and day out is not conducive to a healthy life and harmful to any relationship.
If a guy is more interested in conquering the fantasy girl in the latest video game than he is in interacting with you, time to let him go. The fantasy girl can have him!
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i need help. i have been married for about 5 months... and my husband plays his World of Warcraft video game everyday of the week... for about 3 to 5 hours a day. I have talked to him about his priorities and about how i feel less important to a game, but he doesn't seem to change. I don't know how to approach him or talk to him. He always get's defensive. Ugh I am so sick of it. any thoughts?
Hi Anonymous...
Ohhh I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.
Let me assure you, you are not alone!
More and more I hear of this particular dynamic in relationships... guys (sometimes women as well), getting so addicted to their games that they withdraw from life!
I am going to write a post addressing this and hopefully give you a couple of thoughts.
It is a difficult situation for sure... guys seems to no comprehend the problem until it gets to a breaking point. Either a relationship fails or they lose their jobs, or something serious happens.
Hopefully, your husband can figure out he needs to get some help before it gets so out of control that his life falls apart!
So, hang on... Hopefully tomorrow I will get a post up about this!
Sending you warm wishes and big hugs,
Jennifer
Is there a post about this issue? I would love to read it. My boyfriend is SO obsessed with World of War craft. He also makes me feel less important then the game. HELP any suggestions.
Hi Anonymous,
Ohhh sorry to hear your relationship is facing this issue. It is a tough one for sure.
It is amazing how addicting these video games can be... you are not alone that is for sure.
Only you can decide what is tolerable in your relationship and what is not.
As I always say.. listen to your gut.
Is your relationship one where there is little hope for a healthy partnership? Is your boyfriend willing to get help? Does he even recognize there is a problem? Have you discussed your feelings and concerns?
Lots of communication needs to happen, then you can know what you face and what, if any possible solutions there are.
I KNOW relationships can heal.. but they take work, honest communication, and a willingness to release some bad habits. They may require some professional help as well.
You be strong... don't let your self esteem take a hit. You deserve a great relationship where you are more important than a game.
Warmest wishes and big hugs to you,
Jennifer
My boyfriend that ive been dating for over 2 yrs that is 18 and doesn't have a job and all he does is play video games. when im working my ass off for us and when i am talking to him he just ignores me and pays more attention to the games... i love him to death i just don't know what to do.. should i stay or should I go?? HELP!! give me some good tips!!
Hi,
my boyfriend, who's 20 after spending sometime with me, before bed he would go and play his COD ( Cll of Duty ) online, with his buddies and i've trying getting him to not do it, but i dont think he could go a day without just going on for a few minutes..sooner or later something in teh games leads to one thing or another...any suggestions?
besides that, he's an amazing fh to be :)
Hi Anonymous,
You are not alone! :-) I hear so many women complain of similar behaviors!
I think lots of discussion is required to work through this issue.
Perhaps you can express your feelings openly and honestly? Perhaps you can come to some sort of compromise, say he will play ever other day, or limit his time to 30 minutes, or something?
The point is not so much about the specific activity as it is respect, care, and concern for you and the relationship.
If a guy puts his games, addictions, sports, or any number of things before his relationship, the relationship may be headed for trouble.
My warmest wishes to you,
Jennifer
Wow it seems like World of Warcraft is a relationship problem! My ex played all day everyday...Upwards of 5-15 hours...Not going to sleep until 6am...He would play while I was at work, even on my days off and while i slept...
Needless to say I was being used!
Supporting him in every way so he could feed his addiction...Not to mention he was playing with an ex...With whom he met on there...And I found out later there was online funny buisness going on with her...
He even said World of Warcraft was an escape from life for him...because thats where he could be himself, and all his friends were on there, and it was better than real life, so he would rather be there...
How sad. Maybe someday he will have a life...As for me I started mine again a little over a week ago, when things ended...Good ridance loser!
Now I am taking time for me, and to find and love me...Then hopefully a nice, well adjested boy will come along...HEhe :)
Good luck all
hello i need some help. my bf has been playing video games his whole life. and we finally are trying to move in together.. and all he does is play video games from the time he wakes up from the time he gets tired. he sometimes shows me effection but thats not often. he doesnt even sleep in the same bed. he sleeps on the floor and i sleep in the bed. but i get that he has always slept on the floor. but the games are getting to me...he keeps saying be an adult about this adults dont need touchy feely things all the time. to day i woke up at 11 and it is now 3:33pm i have only seen him out of the room twice once for food and once for a restroom break. how can i break him of this habbit. please i ask for your help...you can email at sinner9456@live.com
or i can just check back here. thank you so much
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